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Not Everyone Will be as Supportive as Hoped or Needed

Opposition can come from the least expected places when caring for someone. I understand that people become exhausted by the ups and downs and constant vigilance. The stress from that is something I have tried to convey in certain series of blog posts. But there are people in our lives, we assume have our back through thick and thin, life and death. Both Mathew and I found this not to be so, a painful but eye-opening lesson.

These two texts I sent to my sister Kathleen are only a few weeks into Mathew’s treatment. This subject also goes back to another post where Mathew asks the doctors when he can go back to work and he is told that with his cancer and type of treatments he will be receiving, work (and as we quickly found out normal life) is not possible.



Texts to my sister Kathleen

I was just calling when I was alone because Carlos 
told me yesterday that when Mat comes home I 
need to let him grow up and learn to take care of 
himself and that everyone needs to stop babying him.
Sent April 7


I asked the pain doctors if they thought he can be 
left alone and they said occasionally for a small 
amount of time but in general, his condition 
changes so rapidly that Mathew may not realize 
he has a fever or is in trouble.
Sent April 7
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